Does Valentine’s Day Make You Shudder or Swoon?


Ah, Valentine’s Day.  For some, the mere mention of the big “V” word immediately results in the shakes and an uncontrollable urge to reach for Alanis Morrisette’s “Jagged Little Pill”.  But for others, the idea of a day devoted to love, chocolate, and red roses make them giddy with excitement.

Since we try our best to make everyone happy, we have cooked up this little Valentine’s blog to satisfy both the “Lover’s” and “Hater’s” of this much debated day of love.

With the help of some amazing friends in Vancouver, we have divided this post into two sections, each with their own suggestions on how to make the best of this day, whether you dread it or are already counting down until Valentine’s Day 2012.

I Heart Valentine’s Day:

This year, the big “V” falls on a Monday.  We agree, it is rather unfortunate that Stephen Harper has ignored your petition to declare this day a national holiday.  However sad it is that you must get your little red laced butt off to work, you reach over to shut off your alarm, and….what is this?  A beautiful floral arrangement seems to have taken over your nightstand!  And from your favourite boutique, Garden Party Flowers, too!  Oh, how well your significant other knows you!

"Pack Me Up & Undress Me"

After stopping to smell the roses, you jump in your car, pop in your iPod, and are again surprised!  Your usual playlist seems to have been hijacked.  The lovely Vancouver DJ Leanne has apparently whispered some romantic song suggestions, resulting in this new mix of tunes:

  • ‘Let’s Stay Together’ – Al Green
  • ‘Lovesong’ -The Cure
  • ‘Always’ – Lisa Shaw
  • ‘You Are The Sunshine Of My Life’ – Stevie Wonder
  • ‘The Sweetest Taboo’ – Sade

After driving your coworkers crazy by hitting the replay button on your iPod all day, it’s finally time to shut off the computer and head home, visions of pink cocktails dancing in your head.  Thankfully your friends at Amy Elliot Cocktails have also been hit with Cupid’s arrow and created this amazing libation, the “sweep me off my feet and never put me down”, “Genevieve.”

1oz gin
75oz ginger syrup
5oz lemon juice
5 raspberries
top w/ sparkling wine or champagne

Add fresh raspberries to boston glass followed by gin, lemon juice and ginger syrup. Fill with ice and shake hard while thinking of your loved one and smile. Fine strain into champagne flute and top with sparkling.

As if this whole day hasn’t already been a scene out of Casablanca, the fabulous Kim Anami, Vancouver Sex and Life Coach (and contributor to Playboy) has provided some sexy ideas to take it up a notch:

“For a woman, what’s incredibly sexy is for her guy to take the reins for Valentine’s Day. Dudes: suggest that you’ll make all the arrangements. You can go the five-star dinner route or you can aim for five-star sex instead.

I suggest the latter.

A couple unique ideas:

  1. Take her to Agent Provocateur for a new set of lingerie that you’ll both enjoy. If you haven’t yet had the pleasure of a personalized AP experience, now is the time. Buying lingerie at Agent Provocateur consists of being fitted by a sexy vixen wedged into a tight, fifties-style, pink mini dress who attends to your every whim. Like a sex nurse on acid. She’ll tighten, suggest and flatter while your woman models stocking-clad outfits as you sit back in the plush loungers to offer your opinion.
  2. Attend a sex workshop. I teach a class called “The Multi-Orgasmic Couple” because as we all know, orgasms are fabulous gifts. And you can regift them! I’m doing a special Valentine’s version of this class at YYoga on Saturday February 12th called “Sex it Up.” Your sex life needs to be a constant priority in your life that you focus on in order to keep things thriving. Like your career, where you are always looking at ways to improve and learn more, so it ought to be with your intimate skills. Come one, come all.

Thumbs down to Sappy Love Songs:

Ugh. You are rudely awakened by “My Heart Goes On” by Celine Dion.  Not a good way to start off a day that taunts your gag reflex.  If only it were possible to click your heels and skip it altogether.  Sadly, it’s not so you trudge off to work in the hopes that the tower of files on your desk will help you get that annoying song out of your head.

Not working?  Time to bring in the pro’s.  DJ Leanne has kindly provided a list of songs – perfect for cranking up and dancing away the Valentine’s blues (NOT red and pink):

  • ‘Love Bites’ – Def Leppard
  • ‘F#@k You’- Cee Lo Green
  • ‘Love Removal Machine’- The Cult
  • ‘I’m Still Standing’ – Elton John
  • ‘Everything She Wants’ – Wham!

While grooving wildly in your cubicle, a special delivery arrives in the form of a rather fantastically dark floral arrangement!  You love the fact that your bff supports your love of flowers with your desire to rival the cheesy red roses sitting on the receptionist’s desk.  Garden Party Flowers, you’ve done it again.

"Blackentine"

When the sound of the cleaner’s vacuum awakens you from your work haze, you meander home, eager to mix a much-needed drink.  Red wine and champagne will definitely NOT work today though, so you turn to this fabulously bitter drink by Amy Elliot Cocktails:

The oh so bitter but oh so balanced, “Forget Me Please”:

1oz gin
5oz campari
5oz amaretto
5oz lillet blanc
2 dash fee brothers grapefruit bitters
garnished w/ orange zest

Combine all ingredients in a boston shaker full of ice and contemplate throwing it across the room. Reconsider and stir vigorously instead. Fine strain into a coupe and garnish with an orange zest. Enjoy independently.

While nursing your cocktail, you come across the following “attract the right mate” suggestions by Kim Anami:

“When you are between loves, use the time to prepare for your next relationship. Know that it’s coming and act accordingly. When you have a guest arriving for dinner, do you sit around in your pajamas and messy house or do you get busy and clean it and yourself up?

Clean it up!

Get your s*&t in order. At the very least, clean your house–dispose of your clutter. It’s feng shui. You have to get rid of the old to make room for the new. Once you have “feng shui’d” the heck out of your home, tend to your internal housekeeping. Whatever issues you have–and we all have them–now is the time to clear them up. If that means you have a paralyzing fear of intimacy, get a counsellor, figure out where it comes from and get rid of it. If you feel physically shy because you aren’t comfortable with your body, see a nutritionist and hire a trainer until you can strut with confidence. This is your work. If you do it, I guarantee you’ll see results. Next year, you’ll be reading the top paragraph instead of the bottom one.

If you want to do your work amongst others, join my group coaching classes. In February, I’ll be facilitating “Knock it Out of the Park: Your Outrageous Life” to address the very things I just mentioned: how to clear any blocks you have and create a new picture of what you want to manifest in your life. You can even come to “Sex it Up” to expand your sexual intelligence. There’s always more to learn.”

We would like to give our sincere thanks to the following wonderful companies who so generously provided their insight into each of the categories within this blog:

Girl on Wax DJ Leanne: http://www.djleanne.com/

Garden Party Flowers: http://gardenpartyflowers.ca/

Amy Elliot: www.amyelliottcocktails.com

Kim Anami: http://bodaciouslifecoaching.com/

Screen World Media: http://www.screenworldmedia.com/